When we say things like “mind your own business” or “don’t be a tattle tale” we have in effect, joined the bullies in disempowering our children. The fact is, there is a portion of the population who bully—and there is a portion of the population who are bullied—but there is a whole lot of kids in between. If we can teach young people (the younger the better) it’s not only appropriate to stand up for others, but it’s the right thing to do, the bullies will soon be out of business. It’s like this—there is power in numbers, if young people speak up when they see someone being hurt, and if they are validated, admired and respected for speaking up, they’ll be empowered to do so. This will change the bully culture. If on the other hand, we ask children to “mind their own business” we create a culture of fear, where people only look out for themselves, and where no one is safe. We can teach children the difference between telling and tattling, we can teach them to stand up for themselves and for others, and we can change their lives for the better.


“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle”  -Plato

“Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same”  -Og Mandino

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